this morning I replied to an email form a person who has disordered eating. I though I would share it here to.
She talked about how her abstinence plan (according to Overeaters Anonymous 12 step program) and how she felt she slipped up from eating something out of the plan.
your are doing well, nothing is s slip it is a journey, you needed something.
One of the most important thing for me is that I check what I am abstaining from and if I am depriving myself. If I am abstaining because the food will harm me, then I can keep reminding my self that this food harms me and find something nice to do that will not harm me or eat something that will not harm me. If I am abstaining for other reasons then for me it is deprivation. We must never deprive ourselves because fundamentally the general reason we have an eating disorder is because we were originally deprived of something. probably love and affection . . . why would we want to reenter what is already or state of being . . . the food we chose is a metaphor for what we need.
love and blessings Maria